Life is unfair. Newsflash! Deal with it. So what do you intend to do? To continually wallow in self-pity and sink into the depths of reason in search of an answer to your circumstance. You need to wake up! You owe life meaning. It is not necessarily what life offers or the circumstances that persist that matters but the opportunity that lingers in them. You need to create meaning out of the depth of emptiness and hopelessness you see. Don’t just exist, live. Make you existence matter, matter to people around you and to the world and you only matter if you have something to offer.
Ambition! Father is not rich because of God or because of any workings of the universe, father is simply not rich because he has no ambition, he has a thought, a desire but no ambition. What defines men often is ambition. What do you truly want? You need to slap yourself with that question. Do you want to struggle eternally for family and hopefully pray they remember you? Gamble of a lifetime! What is your ambition? Don’t run into each day, thinking about the next meal, the next bill, the next problem, it’s a survival mentality and a continuous circle that never ends. You need to have an ambition. What are you looking up to? What is the goal 10 years, 20 years from now? So think!
What is your game plan? God has no plan of sending manna down. So wake up! Wishing and hoping are thoughts; lazy, unambitious men trade in. You need to wake up to reality and take opportunity by the wings. If things are not happening, make them happen, that is the spirit that is the mindset. Ambition is wishful thinking without a game plan. So ask yourself how do you plan to get to your destination? Use what you have and invest in the capacity for more. You either have means, resources or both. You either know how to get money or you have it. What do you have? Use it.
The winning mindset! Your ability to win is not a question of preparation; it’s a question of mindset. Everyman applies the same strategy. Is it hard work! We all work hard but we are not as rich as we want to be. Prayer! We all hold silent vigils in our hearts pouring out the depths of our souls. Believing! We all believe, some have even started day dreaming. Hoping! We are all victims of hope, the hoping hopeful men we are. Persevering! We are all preserving and it’s become synonymous to suffering. But in all these, we just don’t get the results. It is a question of approach and your approach is a function of your mindset and your mindset changes everything. There is no amount of prayer or wishful thinking that will put money in your pocket except a man puts hands to work. If you give a man all the money in the world and he keeps thinking like a poor man, he would not become rich. It is not money that makes rich but the mentality towards it. You need to be able to think it.
Risk! If you are not willing to risk anything, you are not willing to gain anything. If you think you have something to lose, think again. You never truly lose anything. Life is a twofold reality, for every victory, you gain something and for every loss, you learn something. So don’t be scared to take risk, step out and act with wisdom. Reach out and make dreams come true. Invest in the habit of taking action. If you worry too much about tomorrow you will lose sight of today.
Capacity! Nothing limits a man like capacity. The size of a cup determines the amount of water that it can take, no matter the desire to pour more into it. You will not attain much in life unless you build the capacity for more. Praying for a change in level without investing in capacity leaves you stuck at the same point. You want to become successful, you need to invest in the capacity required to attain such.
The circle of value! 80% of the contacts on your phone never call you and you never call them so what’s the point of having them. Your thought is “just in case”. It is the “just in case” mentality that keeps you hanging on the floor instead of climbing the ladder to the top. You need to revisit your contact list. You need to ask yourself, if people only call me when they are in need, when they want to party, when they want to sell things, when they want to go to the bar, or when they have nothing to do then there is a problem. There is a big problem and they need to go. Eventually when you make it they will come around and join in the party and boast about knowing you.
Communicate don’t just speak! Learn to communicate and not just flex your prowess in diction. We can all speak English so be yourself. Be quick to listen, understand and then flow. Keep your conversations simple and straight to the point. It shows understanding and clarity. People listen not because they have ears so focus on the important. Talk your worth. Everyone has value to offer. Posture matters, don’t stand like you have been carrying a bag of cement, stand with confidence. Don’t be on the defensive when questioned, it shows weakness and incompetence, listen and respond don’t react. Keep you tone don’t blaze up in emotions. Nobody needs all that we all have emotions too. So keep you \”ish\” together. Be certain, if you are not then shut up!
Dressing! Don’t dress for self-importance, dress for self-worth. Dress your worth, not your importance. Everyone’s important in one way or the other. They question is worth. I know you are important but what are you worth and this is not a question of money, it is a question of relevance. Your worth is defined by your relevance. You are only relevant if you create value and you can only create value if you have something to offer. What do you have to offer? So dress it!
Networking! Most opportunities you will get come from your ability to network. Opportunities don’t fall on men; it is your investment in networking that births them. Be assertive! Reach out and connect. When you go out for events don’t just sit with your usual group move around meet people. Go around looking for people of value, not people of worth. And how do you tell? As a man thinks in his heart so he is and out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. The conversation a man makes with you is a reflection of his mindset and how he basically sees you. People of value will speak value. You will make more connections moving around than sitting with the same guys. Your friends will always be there but this people won’t. You never know who you will meet.
Wake up to reality! The world doesn’t play by your rules, remember that. It’s not a question of being smart; it’s about understanding the situation and knowing what card to play. It is exercising good judgment. Always think Value and let that guide your approach to life. Remember your relevance is defined by time and life. So hasten up, reach out and stamp your relevance on the world.
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